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14 April 2008 @ 07:55 pm
Wow, It's Been a Long Time  
Hi guys! *waves sheepishly*

I'm so sorry I dropped out of sight for a while. I wanted to at least give an update so y'all know I wasn't abducted by aliens or something.

Thanks to everyone who wrote to wish me a happy birthday or just to say hi over the last few months. Really, it has meant a lot to me to know I haven't been totally forgotten, and I haven't forgotten you guys, I promise. I haven't written a word of fic, but I'm going to try to post a bit more often anyway, even if it's just personal ramblings. 'Cause you guys love me for me, right, not just for my fic?

*crickets chirping*

Hmm. Well, I'm gonna post about my life anyway. :p

So. As some of you may know, I'm a lawyer. I haven't really talked about it on LJ because, well, lawyers aren't the most popular creatures on earth, and also 'cause I didn't want to seem like I was bragging, and 'cause I didn't really want to be judged by my profession, whether for good or ill. I'm a disability rights lawyer, which is a specialty that I strongly believe in, but there's been quite a bit of backlash against the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) and those who work to enforce it, and honestly I'm really not interested in getting into a debate about the civil rights of persons with disabilities on LJ. I come here to forget my RL job, you know?

Anyway. I've been thinking for a while about quitting law altogether, or at least changing fields, or at the very least changing jobs, because my current job is SUPER stressful. So now I've come to the exciting but scary decision that I'm going to start my own practice. I work for a tiny firm (two and a half lawyers - me, my semi-retired boss, and a part-time associate) and I've worked there for about five years, so I know the ropes both in terms of this area of law and in terms of the nuts and bolts of running an office. I'm going to start out doing disability access litigation because that's what I know best, but I want to slowly transition out of litigation work because it's so conflict-driven, which is very difficult and wearying for me. I don't like conflict! I'd rather help people than fight them. I'm going to try to move into trust and estate planning, but we'll see what ends up happening. It's really scary because I'll be giving up a secure income, but it feels like the right decision, so I think it's good to try. I figure if I hate it and/or fail at it, I can still get another job, whether in law or out of it - I'm still young (well, relatively - I just turned 32). I'm sure I'll be working really hard, especially at first, but I figure at least I won't have a boss to look over my shoulder and get mad if I decide to spend some of my workday writing fic or surfing LJ. :p Anyway, any advice/well-wishes/you're-crazy-speeches would be welcome!

In other big news, my husband and I are hopefully going to be buying a house in the next few months. Because of the recent death of my wealthy step-grandfather (he was a sexist controlling bastard, so not many tears are being shed - just as a ferinstance, when he and my grandmother traveled together, he flew first class but made her travel coach on the same flight) my parents have come into a bit of money and can help us out with a down payment. And with the market the way it is, we can actually afford a home in the bay area, which is kind of a miracle. I'm hoping to get something big enough that I can have a home office so I can at least avoid the overhead of renting an office for the first few years.

ALSO, as if that weren't enough, I'm trying to get pregnant. Some of you know that I had a miscarriage a couple of years ago, at 11 weeks, which was devastating. I took a couple of years off from trying to get pregnant because I just wasn't emotionally ready to try again, and was dealing with my depression as well. The biological clock is now ticking pretty strongly, and I have fertility issues which will only get worse with age, so I'm pressing ahead, despite the major life changes I've outlined above. Am I crazy? Probably. But I also, maybe for the first time in my life, have confidence that everything will work out, one way or another. So I'm also beginning to undergo fertility treatments, like the fun butt-injection that House gave to Cuddy, only mine was administered by an older female nurse who wasn't nearly as cute as HL, more's the pity. So far no luck (I've been trying for about 4 months) but I'll keep you guys posted.

I mentioned depression above, and on that front I'm continuing to do well. It's a constant struggle, with some days up and some down, but overall I'm doing so much better than I was a year ago. I've had my meds adjusted upwards a couple of times when they seemed to stop working, but (knock on wood) my current dosage seems to be continuing to work for me. I heart Prozac. Seriously.

Well, that's probably enough to drop on you guys for now, and anyway I need to go work on an emergency ex parte motion that has to be filed tomorrow (fun, fun).

Come say hi, please - I've really missed all you guys! There's no hope that I'll catch up on my f-list from the past several months, but I'll try to be better about reading it in the future, and if major stuff has been going on in your life (or even not-major stuff) I'd love to hear about it.

*smooshes f-list in a giant hug*
Where am I?: the comfy couch
How do I feel?: optimisticoptimistic
What do I hear?: Too Much Heaven - the Bee Gees (they're a guilty pleasure)
Furiusfurius on April 15th, 2008 03:52 am (UTC)
Hi! It's always good to see a familiar name back on the flist after a long absence.

Congratulations on the house idea! In the Bay Area, no less.

Can't offer you any advice I'm afraid, but best of luck on whatever you decide! *hugs*
Sky: [j&w] jw gazeskyblue_reverie on April 15th, 2008 04:08 am (UTC)
Hi there! Aww, I've missed your little hypnotic marching cow. *stares at it* What have you been up to?

Thanks for the well-wishes! *hugs back*
cicerothewriter on April 15th, 2008 03:57 am (UTC)
*waves* Hi! It's good to see you again. *hugs*
Skyskyblue_reverie on April 15th, 2008 04:10 am (UTC)
Yay! Good to see you too! *hugs* What you been doing? Are you in Iowa now? Do you like it there? Have you met weaselwoman13 yet? :D
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Omphale: Happy pillsdryadwoman on April 15th, 2008 04:23 am (UTC)
Wow. Much love and good lucks to you on all the big life stuff! I'm sure you could make a case for the injections being more effective if administered by HL.

I've run out of Boston Legal to watch and need need NEED more House.

I'm allergic to Prozac, which is pretty special but annoying. I'm waiting to see a psych to get a recommendation to shake up my meds, because I have been doing really not well for the last five months or so. I'm glad it works for you. *Hugs*
Sky: [house] house neckskyblue_reverie on April 15th, 2008 04:50 am (UTC)
Ha! Yes, I think I should try to convince my health insurance company that they should pay for HL to come to California and give me butt shots because that way it'll be more effective. ;)

I actually haven't really been watching House this season - I'm tivoing it, so if I get in the mood I can watch 'em, but I haven't been watching much tv in general. The one exception is Supernatural, which I enjoy watching but haven't really been compelled to join the fandom for. I like the show, but I'm not obsessed with it the way I was with House/SFAHL/J&W. I'm definitely in need of a new fandom obsession. Might be NFL slash (I love me some Manning boys) but I don't really know yet.

Aww, man, that sucks about being allergic to Prozac. I really hope you can find a med or meds that work for you. The difference between depression and not-depression is... I dunno, almost indescribable. Good luck to you on that front.

Thanks for the comment and love and well wishes! *hugs*
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silksieve: Hugh bowler hatsilksieve on April 15th, 2008 05:19 am (UTC)
OMG! The sky, she is blue again! Yay!

I don't presume to give advice, but I switched jobs last year to really do what I love, and my happiness level has gone up SOO much, it's not even funny. Even if my job pays me half less than the average in the city (for my job!), I'm so happy going to work every day that it is totally worth it.
Skyskyblue_reverie on April 15th, 2008 12:02 pm (UTC)
Hi there! And Yayyyyyy for you doing what you love! I really admire that, and hope that I can achieve it. I would dearly love to look forward to going to work instead of dreading it. Not that it's all bad; I mean there's ups and downs as with any job, but especially lately it's been increasingly bad days, so it's time to move on, you know?

Anyway, thanks for saying hi, and for sharing your experience!
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Sky: [veronica mars] v/l epicskyblue_reverie on April 15th, 2008 12:06 pm (UTC)
*hugs you back super-hard*

Thank you for the fun Friday, and for the perfect birthday gifties! I was tied up in court all day yesterday so I didn't get a chance to talk to the AAMCO people but I'll report as soon as I can. I'm up at this ridiculous hour because I have to be in SF at 7 a.m. this morning for work. 7 A.M.! What kind of ungodly hour is that?? ;)

Glad that you had the public transit karma on your side. We must hang again soon - it's been soooo nice getting to see you regularly!

♥ ♥ ♥
tourmaline1973 on April 15th, 2008 06:19 am (UTC)

Good to see you again :)

Good luck with the legal practice - I guess there's no way of knowing how it's going to go unless you try. And then whatever happens, you know you've tried it :)

And there are times when Prozac is yummy and lovely. I do remember those days (I've now been completely Prozac-free for 6 months, I can't believe it's been so long).

*hugs again*
Sky: [hugh] hugh eyesskyblue_reverie on April 15th, 2008 12:08 pm (UTC)
*hugs back* Thank you so much for the support! Wow, Prozac-free! Congrats! I must admit that thought kinda paralyzes me with fear. Well, one step at a time, I suppose.

*is totally captivated by your icon* ZOMG HUGH. ZOMG ZOMG. *drools*

umm, sorry. Wow. HOT. Anyway.

*hugs back again*
wemblee: farscape icon by selluinlaerwemblee on April 15th, 2008 06:37 am (UTC)
YAY, you!

Wow, that is a LOT on your plate, but I support you and I hope everything works out beautifully for you. *hugs you*

Also: just as a ferinstance, when he and my grandmother traveled together, he flew first class but made her travel coach on the same flight


But yes, I'm seriously happy to see you pop up on my flist, and I'll try to be better about calling more. {{{{{{ }}}}}}}
Sky: [j&w] boyfriendskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 02:18 am (UTC)
Yayyy, thank you!!! You've been so good to me - thank you for keeping in touch. We really need to meet one of these days when I'm down in your neck of the woods!


I KNOW!!!! Unbelievable.
Janettepotatofiend on April 15th, 2008 08:31 am (UTC)
There you are! I always look forward to seeing your name pop up on my f-list, for any reason! I didn't know you were a lawyer; I keep getting little bits of paper in my pigeon-hole at college suggesting I become one after graduation, but, er. I don't think I'm cut out for it. ;) I'll be keeping my fingers crossed about the baby.
Sky: [j&w] jeeves facepalm animatedskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 02:23 am (UTC)
Here I is! Thanks for stopping by to say hi.

I keep getting little bits of paper in my pigeon-hole at college suggesting I become one after graduation, but, er. I don't think I'm cut out for it.

You are wiser than I was - I let my head get turned by those kind of things when I had no idea what being a lawyer was actually like. If I had it to do again, I would prolly not go to law school, but ah well. It is what it is, you know?

Thanks for the baby well-wishes! :D
captain heteroknowledgeablenotpoetry on April 15th, 2008 12:34 pm (UTC)
Oh man, all of that is overwhelming and exciting and I'm really delighted for you! Congratulations and good luck and I'll be here on the opposite coast, keeping my fingers crossed for you!

*hugs you tons*
Sky: [j&w] jw ampersandskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 02:25 am (UTC)
Hey you! I meant to tell you that awhile ago I saw your wish-list post for this past year's yuletide when you again said such lovely things about the fic I wrote for you, and it made me melt into a little puddle of goo. :)

Thanks for all the good luck vibes. :D

*hugs you back lots*
Gaffsie: Head-pinchgaffsie on April 15th, 2008 04:27 pm (UTC)
Why, hello there. :D

Considering how busy your life seems to be at the moment, I'm doubting that anyone's judging you for not spending time on LJ. A possible career change, a new house *and* fertility treatments? That's pretty damn impressive. I hope everything works out for the best for you. :)

(he was a sexist controlling bastard, so not many tears are being shed - just as a ferinstance, when he and my grandmother traveled together, he flew first class but made her travel coach on the same flight) Whoa. That is all.
Sky: [j&w] jeeves & cowboy!bertieskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 02:32 am (UTC)
Why, hello, my darling! :D

Heh, well, everything going on is either impressive or utterly insane. Possibly both. :p Thanks for the well-wishes!

Whoa. That is all.

topaz_eyes on April 15th, 2008 04:46 pm (UTC)
Welcome back, hon! (((hugs))) Missed you here.

Best of luck with your own practice! And I do hope you'll keep us updated as your schedule permits. :-)
Sky: [little prince] landscapeskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 02:34 am (UTC)
Thank you, my dear!! (((hugs back))) Aww, I missed you too. And AWWWW, your icon!!! Soooooo cuuuuuute!

Thanks for the well-wishes, and I really do hope to be around here at least a bit more often. :)
Fluffy: Sam Likes it Hereflufshepherd on April 15th, 2008 07:38 pm (UTC)
Yay! The name skyblue_reverie is back on my friends page!

Sounds like things are taking positive turns all around. I'm so excited for all of it. I hope everything works out for the bestest.

I've been kinda absent from LJ, too. So, you've missed very little on my end. Sorry I missed your birthday! Happy belated birthday, though!

Yay! You're back! *tackle hugs*

PS: Hi. :-D
Sky: [fry & laurie] legsskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 02:54 am (UTC)
Yay! for being back! And yayy! for tackle hugs! :D

Thanks so much for the well-wishes - I'm hoping it all works out for the best also!

Aww, no worries about the birthday. I made cupcakes, natch - yellow with chocolate frosting, mmmmm. :)

HI! :D

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Sky: [j&w] photo in photoskyblue_reverie on April 16th, 2008 03:01 am (UTC)
Y hello thar! :D

Aw, I've missed you too.

Yep, depression sucks. :( Hope you haven't been struggling too much.
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silsbee329 on April 18th, 2008 01:51 am (UTC)
Hello, you!! You are sorely missed. ♥

That's a lot you've got going on there. I wish you the very best with everything.

Things are crazy in my corner of the world. Buying a condo, trying to keep from getting fired before the closing, juggling all sorts of balls. I will persevere, though, dammit! ;D

*big huge hugs*

P.S.: I LOVE THE BEE GEES. I have a Bee Gees lunchbox from when I was in kindergarten or first grade. I treasure it. :D
Sky: [j&w] jw backsskyblue_reverie on April 18th, 2008 03:25 am (UTC)
Hey, you! I've missed you too. ♥

Wow, sounds like your life is just as crazy as mine. Good luck to you too on everything! Are you homebuying for the first time? I'd love any advice or input you have on the process.

Yay Bee Gees! :D

*huge hugs back*
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fernum on April 23rd, 2008 10:37 pm (UTC)
M'darling Sky I can offer you only this,

*Steps up to you and huggles you tightly*

I think that says it all.

- Natalie

(Oh and I can offer you more pictures of Stephen because I'll be in the Green Room of QI on the 5th of May. I promise you all the juicy Stephenesque details when I return xx)
Sky: [stephen] flail animatedskyblue_reverie on April 24th, 2008 02:15 pm (UTC)
Hi there sweetheart. Thank you for the hugs. *huggles back tight*

That definitely says it all. ♥

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